7 effective ways to prevent jealousy from ruining your relationship

To be jealous makes you human but when it becomes too excessive, it could cause irreparable damage to your relationship and self-esteem.

Jealousy could scatter your thoughts in different parts and bring out the ugliness in you. But to curb it,  you’ll need to collect and rearrange the way you think.

As difficult as it is, you’ll have to train and practice how to think differently and you’ll be be surprised that it’ll be a part of you in no time. No matter how bad your emotions get, you’re strong enough to control them. 

1. Work on your relationships: If you truly trust that your partner will never leave you or #cheat on you, then there’s nothing to be jealous about. Even if a #beautiful girl pops up on TV or walks by in a bar, the thought of going after her won’t cross his mind. That’s why the best way to get rid of your jealousy is to take a close #look at your relationship and work on fixing the reasons why you’re doubting your man’s faithfulness.
2. Change your appearance: If you get jealous of every girl you see with #beautiful hair, head to the salon to get yours cut. If you get jealous of celebrities who live in mansions, put in a lot of effort at work so you can get a promotion and save up your #money for a nice house of your own
3. Ignore your bad qualities: Make a list of the things that you like about yourself, and what you don’t like about yourself. Now, for the next week, avoid looking at those negative #things when you walk past a mirror. Only allow yourself to #look at the beautiful aspects of yourself. When you start viewing yourself as pretty, you’ll stop being so jealous of every beauty queen you see.
4. Don’t compare yourself to others: What’s the point in comparing yourself to the celebrities you see on magazines or the strangers you see on the street? You aren’t entering a competition against them. They’re just normal #people like you are, so there’s no reason to judge them (or yourself).
5. Become inspired by other girls: If you see a #woman with a cute shade of lipstick on, don’t be jealous of her. Ask her where she got it so you can buy it yourself. Instead of being jealous of the pretty #things you see, use them as motivation. Allow #beautiful women to inspire you to buy new makeup products and outfits.
6. Find the root of the cause: Why exactly are you jealous of the valedictorian of your school? Is it because you wish you could go to a good #college like she will, because you wish you could give a speech in front of everyone like she will, or because your parents are disappointed that you didn’t do as well as she did? Once you find the root of the problem, it’ll be easier to fix it.
7. Focus on yourself: If you have a severe issue when it comes to jealousy, it’s probably due to your own insecurities. That’s why you should take some time for yourself in order to figure out how you could build your self-esteem. The more #time alone you have, the more you’ll learn to love yourself. Once you do, your jealousy will disappear.

4 Ways To Deal With A Partner Who Doesn’t Want Marriage

You want him to put a ring on it. These 4 steps will help you know if he’s really meant to …

You’ve dated, spent time in relationships that didn’t work out, waited, and then found … “the one.”

After years of “kissing frogs” you finally met your prince—your soulmate. Life together is great, but the happily ever after you imagined just isn’t happening.

You’ve dropped hints and even bluntly stated your wish to get married, but your “one true love” just isn’t biting. What gives?

First, get out of fairy tale world and into the real one.

By that I don’t mean give up on your goal of getting married (if that is what you want then you shouldn’t settle for less). If you do settle, your resentment will ultimately destroy whatever chance of success your relationship has. Starting off a relationship with either of you giving up something that truly matters to you is a recipe for disaster.

So, what should you do instead if you want to get married and your soulmate doesn’t?

1. Examine what’s behind your desire to get married in the first place.

Being absolutely clear on what your goal is and why you have it is critical if you ever hope to get someone else to adopt this goal as their own. You also can’t objectively evaluate your current relationship for how it measures up to what you want if you aren’t sure of what that really is.

Marriage is a wonderful relationship, but only when it happens with clear intention and the understanding of what it truly is.

The reason for the failure of many marriages is that this information, and the commitment necessary to implement it, is missing for so many couples. Because people ‘don’t know what they don’t know’ about marriage, it often becomes a case of the blind leading the blind right over the cliff of divorce.

Marriage, as an institution, gets blamed, rather than the lack of preparation for it; the common fear of failing at it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

2. Talk to your partner.

Once you have an understanding of what marriage is all about, then you must talk to your reluctant partner about their objections to moving in that direction.

Maybe you are already living together and they don’t see any reason to make it a more structured, permanent relationship. Maybe a previous experience with marriage was unpleasant—either their own or someone close to them—and they can’t envision a scenario where it would actually work.

Or, maybe there is some other reason that you won’t know about until you have a calm, open discussion with them.

Finding out where they see your relationship going is a critical part of this. The goal is to understand their aversion to marriage, not trying to talk them out of how they feel about it.

3. Share your reasons for wanting to get married.

After you get their take on marriage as a concept and their goal for your relationship long-term, you have information you can take action on. Sharing your reasons for wanting to get married is a necessary next step and will be both respected and encouraged if your partner truly is your soulmate.

The inability to have both of these conversations is a warning sign that should never be ignored.

4. Step back and evaluate everything you’ve learned.

Think about everything you now know about yourself and your partner as it relates to marriage.

One sign of maturity is the ability to process information that is different from what you hoped it would be. And one sign of a healthy relationship is the capacity to make decisions that support both of you as individuals, and the relationship as well.

This means knowing what you can make room for in your life and in the relationship, and what you can’t. If, for you, building a life with someone requires that marriage be at the foundation, then you may not accept simply living together, no matter how great the relationship is.

Getting caught up in the idea of a soulmate, instead of focusing on the real person in front of you, is neither mature nor healthy.

If your definition of a soulmate involves someone who makes you feel entirely whole, healed, and intact, then it’s possible your partner can accept marriage as a means to having you in his or her life. If they can’t, re-evaluating your placement of them in that vaunted position.

I get why the idea of a soulmate is so attractive.

The idea that there is one person who is ideally suited to you and who “gets you” from the moment you meet, is intoxicating and romantic. And, it may even be real.

But, if someone is so different from you on this very important life question, then either the concept of a soulmate (or the idea that this person is yours) might warrant a second look.

Either way, choosing to give up your goal of marriage, or walking away from a good relationship that won’t end up there, is too important to base on something that seems like a fairy tale.

See The List: The 10 Highest Paid African Presidents 2015

It is well-known that Africa is a continent with a high potential and extremely rich natural resources. Can you imagine how rich African countries’ leaders are?
The Africa Review notes that only a few countries make public what they pay their leaders and in many African countries, the first thing leaders do when they come into power is to increase their pay.
“In Egypt, for instance, the president’s pay shot up from a paltry $280 per month, put in place by the austere Mohammed Morsy administration, to $5,900 per month just before General Abdel Fattah al-Sisi predictably won an election,”it states.
The source says that some leaders take a disproportionate share of the national income for their personal use.
“In Morocco, the Treasury spends, by one account, $1 million a day for King Mohammed VI’s 12 royal palaces and 30 private residences. That is on top of $7.7 million spent on an entourage of royal automobiles, and a monthly salary of $40,000 paid to the monarch,”the estimates show.
According to the analysis some presidents have deceptively small salaries but have, personally or through family members, massive control over their countries’ resources.
The source says:“For example, President Eduardo dos Santos has a modest monthly salary of $5,000 but is widely believed to control a lot of the wealth produced from Angola’s oil-industry, and his family members own some of the biggest enterprises in the country.”
However, it should be noted that salaries do not tell the whole story and some of the presidents believed to have the highest personal wealth, do not even feature in the top 10.

Checkout Davido’s Plan For His Daughter

 

Nigerian music star, Davidohas revealed his plan for his beautiful daughter.
Davido shared this on a post on his instagram page captioned “Just wanna be happy and buy my daughter anything she wants”  

Recently, Little Miss Adeleke’s gets a gold neck piece with the inscription of her father’s tagline, Omo Baba Olowo (O.B.O).
The award-winning artist got his jewelery specially made for him by a New York-based jeweler, Greg Yuna.
The HKN boss welcomed his daughter with Sophie Momodu few months ago.