Some relationships do not stand the test of time because the partners are not compatible. Here are some of the ways to attract the right person for a lasting relationship:
Be real
Being real and not leading a fake life to impress someone will attract the right person to want to be with you. Only insecure people portray what they are not or do not have in order to get the attention they seek. Also, real people do not compromise their likes to satisfy the other person and end up hurt. To be real, think about your tastes, stay true to those standards and you will definitely attract someone who will love you for who you are.
Be confident
To attract the right people for a relationship, you have to be confident in yourself. Confidence usually comes from knowing your worth/value and loving yourself. It also shows in your personality and carriage. Being confident also means that you will not be needy as neediness repels potential partners and attracts only the ones that might tend to be controlling. Men and women get easily attracted to people who are confident. However, confidence should not be mistaken as pride or arrogance, which puts people off.
Be friendly
To attract a friend, you have to be a friend. Friendship is usually the bedrock of every relationship, so you have to learn to be friendly. If you are rigid, loosen up and make yourself approachable. People want to be sure they can get along with you easily before they commit to any relationship. Always show love and care, be kind to people and learn to wear smiles on your face. Also, you must develop respect for others. You may be good-looking enough to attract people, but your character determines who stays with you.
Visit the right places
Sometimes, waiting for the right person to come to you may not bring him or her. The option you have might be to take the bold step. Have an idea of the kind of person you want to attract and imagine the potential places where that person could be found. It would be more appropriate to develop love for any activity which you believe your potential partner would likely engage in. To get more serious with it, make a list of places that you would visit and make yourself personally interested in what happens there while not compromising your own standard.
Get over past hurt
Letting an old wound get the most of you is one way of keeping you single or attracting the wrong type of person in your life. Learn how to deal with emotional pain from past relationships and ensure you get over them before you make yourself available for the next person. Some people are good at taking advantage of other people’s vulnerability, and you could fall prey to them if you let past hurt dwell longer than it should.
Dress decently
Dressing in a sexually provocative way is not the best way to attract the right person to you. It might attract people who fancy such lifestyles, but that would only be temporary as no decent person would like to be associated with such. Also, dressing immaturely could put off a potential partner. If you dress in an overly sexy way, you could come off as trying too hard to get attention, and dressing in an overly conservative way could make you look like you are suppressing your natural self. You may not need to seek approval for your dressing, but dress decently.
Set relationship goals
Knowing what you want and how you want to be treated is essential to attracting the right person. Once you know how you would like to be treated, don’t settle for anything less. Also, it makes the relationship a smooth ride because the other party would not be under pressure to please you or struggling to figure out how to behave around you. You have to know what you want and have this discussed with the other person.
Avoid dating mistakes
Some people want relationships but are more interested in sex and this could discourage potential partners. Also, do not be too possessive. Not everyone would be comfortable or tolerate a partner who tends to control or monitor them. If you find someone you like and want to commit to, do not seek to change the person. Instead, love the person for who he or she is and do not concentrate on the person’s flaws. Nobody is perfect. Rushing someone into committing to you or getting married makes you desperate. They would be suspicious of you and eventually run away. Take things gradually and do not bore them with your problems.
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