Understand yourself
Relationship boundaries define your individuality. Set expectations for your partner, and protect youself from entering into an unhealthy relationship. It is also important to understand that your boundaries are probably different when it comes to different people and, over time, your boundaries and relationships may change. One of the most rewarding parts of a relationship is being able to relax your boundaries.
Be sensitive to each other’s feelings
In order to set effective boundaries, you must understand your feelings and that of your partner. A critical comment from you can make your partner feel bad. Being aware of your partner’s feelings puts you in check. Also, ensure you are consciously not crossing any boundaries with the other person. Identify how your boundary has been crossed and discuss it with your partner.
Take the decision
Once you recognise what causes you to feel drained or bad in your relationship, your next step should be how to tackle it. If your partner constantly upsets you or goes overboard with some certain privileges, you may need to tell him or her how this affects you. If a critical comment towards you upsets you, make the decision to talk about it and tell them that you don’t appreciate being spoken to that way. Some people are scared of tackling certain issues in their relationship because they are scared of breaking it off. The earlier you draw your partner’s attention to the issue, the longer the relationship will last.
Speak up
There are so many things to communicate in a relationship and this includes the ills and odds.When communicating the boundaries, bear in mind that it could result in an argument or misunderstanding. The best thing to do at this stage is to simply walk away until the heat cools off, but let him or her know that you would like to continue the conversation in the future. If the misunderstanding persists, it simply means that your partner does not respect the boundaries you have set in the relationship.
Space
No matter how bonded partners are in a relationship, space is important. Do not be afraid to give or take it when it is needed. Be mindful that as much time as you need to take for yourself, your partner will require the time too. Spend time to do things you enjoy apart from your relationship, and let your partner do the same. Encroaching on each other’s space is unhealthy. Learn to balance your work life, social life, and love life.
Guard yourself
Although you may have talked about the boundaries and what your partner does to cross those boundaries, you are still human and prone to get upset at their actions sometimes. Learn to guard yourself when those times come. Take some time to do some thinking and meditation to cool off when tensed. Go for a walk, exercise and do not expend too much energy focusing on what happened. Do not feel guilty for setting a boundary because it simply means that you are emotionally strong.
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